Interview :: Why Pole Dancing Is Not Only Sexy, But Deeply Empowering to Women in a Patriarchal Society

I recently had the pleasure of being interviewed by Michael Ashley about Pole Parlour and my personal experience as a pole dancer. It was extremely rewarding to speak with a male outside of the pole community—I found myself digging deep to truly understand the impact pole has had on my life and accurately convey this to a broader audience who has very little knowledge or understanding about our tribe.

I am quite pleased with how it turned out, and urge you to read out the full interview here. I am also pasting some of my favorite quotes from the interview below...

A portion of Michael's introduction:

Just as certain freethinking African American rappers willingly coopted the N-word to empower themselves, certain liberated women have also appropriated the act of pole dancing from its bawdy roots. These fearless souls have managed to transcend antiquated expectations of vulgarity. Their inspirational actions have helped changed public perceptions so that pole dancing has become a fitness sport as well as a viable expression of female strength, beauty and even spirituality.

... I encourage people to be more open about [pole dancing] when possible, and educate others about the merits of pole dance in order to increase public awareness and understanding. Pole dancing is art, athleticism, and spirituality rolled into one. It combines the artistic nature of creative dance, with the athletic strength needed to perform tricks and spins, with the spiritual experience of physically expressing one’s inner self.

I think the problem actually lies with society for feeling justified to demean women who choose to pole dance, rather than the other way around. There is nothing inherently wrong with integrating sensuality in art. Just as we revere voluptuous nudes in Renaissance paintings and the erotic eloquence of a Walt Whitman poem, so should we respect and admire the sexual beauty of pole dance.

... When [masculine energy] becomes a woman’s dominant nature, the mystique is lost. The “feminine mystique” requires relinquishing control and allowing oneself to be vulnerable, soulful, and comfortable with her own sensual nature. Pole dancing allows women to shed the “shame” of this femininity, and in turn project the confidence, passion, and over-arching empowerment that comes from connecting with one’s true inner self.

... when women are given an opportunity to explore the physical and creative capabilities of their bodies in a safe, empowering environment, they learn to recognize the strength and beauty they possess.

It’s time women stopped allowing society to dictate how they should look and act. And this can only happen when women are able to accept and embrace themselves — their unique beauty, strength, and sexuality — and feel empowered by their innate essence. When a woman understands how it FEELS to be empowered, no projected “idealized” version can make her believe she is otherwise.

Please feel free to share the full interview! And thank you, Michael, for including the views and ideas of Pole Parlour on your platform!